4 questions to find out if you should forgive her for infidelity

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She Cheated — Now What?

Gold Coast-Tweed Heads residents face the same risk that all people do, in any part of the world: they can potentially be the victim of infidelity on behalf of their partner. This has been an inescapable fact of life for generations in the past, and it remains the case today. I have certainly been the victim of infidelity before. If you managed to land on this page, chances are that you have been, too. Maybe you’re wondering if the woman you’re with right now is having an affair behind your back. Maybe you’ve been musing over that question for a while, and you have finally received confirmation that your woman is cheating on you. If the latter is the case, then you’re in a truly sour spot in life. I’ve been there before, and I certainly didn’t enjoy it. However, I’ve managed to find my way out of it, and so can you. Here are the questions you must ask yourself in order to find out if you should forgive her for infidelity.

Is She any Different from all the Other Cheating Women?

There are two sorts of cheating women out there: the kind who will simply sleep with any attractive man she sees on the street, and the kind who will only cheat once or twice in her life, under very extreme circumstances. If your woman falls into the former category, then there is really no need to give her any more than one chance at a relationship with you. Of course, if you’re open to polygamy, then that’s a whole other conversation. However, if you’re not, and your woman falls under the latter category, it’s worth it to give her a second chance, provided you love her enough to do so.

How Many Times Has She Cheated?

How many times has she cheated on you? Was it once? Three times? Ten times?! Find out from her, and of course, keep in mind that she might not be telling you the truth. Personally, I will only forgive a cheater after the first time that I catch them in the act. Any more than that, and the relationship is simply not worth my time.

Is this the First Time She Lied to You?

Ask yourself, is this the first time she lied to you? Of course, everybody tells little white lies, and those should not be considered here. However, if your wife has frequently lied to you about serious matters in the past, and you have now discovered that she is cheating, you need to ask yourself if you want both a liar and a cheater to be your partner in life. I suspect that the answer is no, and I think that it’s the right answer.

Do You Love Her?

Of course, this is the big question, and you need to think long and hard on it before you make any sort of decision. Love is the determining factor in any relationship, and it’s certainly the determining factor when it comes to whether or not to forgive someone for cheating. If the cheating was a one-time mistake, and you love the girl more than anything, then it might be worth it for the both of you to seek relationship reparation after the incident occurred. Forgiveness is its own reward, remember that.

Forgiving Her For Cheating: Answer These 5 Questions To Know If You’ll Be Able To

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Forgive a cheater: Can you truly forgive her?

When I first met my girlfriend she was living in Rotorua, and I was so head over heels for her that I decided to relocate my life and move in with her. After a couple years of being together I seriously thought that our relationship was perfect, but then one night we got into a huge fight and she went out, got drunk, and cheated on me. The next morning she came home and told me what happened, and I couldn’t help but feel bad for her because her pain was raw and real. Since I was deeply in love with her and truly believed that she was sorry, I decided to forgive her. Obviously I knew that it wouldn’t be that easy to just forgive a cheater for their actions, but I knew that it was worth a shot.

Cheating women: Is this your first time being cheated on?

Since it was my first time dealing with being cheated on, I really didn’t know how to act, but I had heard some stories about cheating women being very sneaky so I didn’t want to get fooled. What helped me realise that my girlfriend wasn’t the typical cheater was how quickly she told me about the event. If I had found out that she cheated on me months after, I would have been a lot more hurt because I would feel like the time in between was all a lie. Since it was her first time cheating and my first time being cheated on, we decided to give it another shot and I’m really happy that we did.

Forgiving her: How hurt are you by her actions?

Forgiving her for her actions was a lot harder than I originally thought it would be, but what helped me power through it was telling how how hurt I was. I knew that if I kept in all my emotions, I would eventually become one with resentment and it would cause our relationship to falter, so I got everything off my chest. When she asked me about how hurt I was over the cheating, I told her exactly how I felt and I could tell that she was really listening and feeling strongly about what she had done. Telling her how much she hurt me made me confident that she would never cheat on me again, especially since I knew how much she loved me and how much it was hurting her to know that she had caused me pain. Once I had said everything I needed to say, we were able to rebuild our relationship.

Cheating girlfriend: Do you think things can go back to normal?

At first, I didn’t believe that things could go back to normal after finding out that my girlfriend had cheated on me with some random guy from Rotorua. But after we had cleared the air and spend hours talking about our feelings, I started to feel closer to her. Strangely enough, her cheating caused us to bond and get to know each other’s insecurities. For more information on how an affair can make your relationship stronger than before, read our guide on the subject.

Cheating wife: Are you only forgiving her for the children?

Being married to a cheating wife is no picnic, but when you have children together you sometimes need to stick around. If you’re only forgiving her for your children’s sake, be prepared to file for a divorce when they get older.