4 questions to find out if you should forgive him for cheating

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He Cheated — Time to Deal With it

So, you were cheated on in Austin. That is some really unfortunate news. I have been lucky enough to have never been cheated on in my life, though I’ve heard several stories from friends and family members who were victimized by infidelity. From all the accounts I’ve gathered, being cheated on by a true lover is one of the most difficult things human beings can go through. In fact, some people never emerge the same after they were cheated on. It leaves a dark ring inside the soul, and it’s the sort of ring that won’t be cleansed despite how much time has passed. However, some of the stories about cheating that I’ve heard actually have happy endings. For the women who have found it in their hearts to forgive their soulmate for infidelity, they have emerged from the experience with a stronger sense of self and a healthier relationship. In life, the most beautiful things can come out of truly unfortunate circumstances. Right now, you might not feel like there is any hope of happiness left in your life, but you need to step outside of that mindset. Good things still await you, despite this little obstacle you’re going through. Ask yourself these questions when deciding whether or not you should forgive your man for cheating.

Forgive a Cheater — Does he Deserve it?

When it comes time to decide whether or not to forgive a cheater, you first need to ask yourself if he truly deserves your forgiveness. From what I’ve heard, there are two types of cheaters: frequent cheates who will basically sleep with anything that moves, and infrequent cheaters who only cheat in rare occasions under a host of certain circumstances. If your boyfriend is a serial cheater, then it’s probably time to kick him to the curb. However, if he is a good man who only happened to slip once, and you truly love him, then you owe it to both of you t give forgiveness a chance.

Is he Different from Typical Cheating Men?

Is your boyfriend different from typical cheating men? Those typical guys are, quite frankly, pigs. Not only will they have sex with anyone they see on the street, but they will openly brag about their frequent affairs to their friends, and they won’t feel a morsel of guilt over it. If your boyfriend is feeling overwhelmed by regret over the mistake that he made, then he is not the average cheating man.

Is he Finally Being Honest?

After some men cheat, they actually change for the better. Confirmation of their potentially horrid human nature can possibly bring out the very best in them. It sounds strange to say, but it’s true. For example, your boyfriend might finally start being completely honest with you after he cheats, for fear of not building the dishonest bad habits that would lead him to cheat on you again in the future.

Do You Still Love Him?

This is, by far, the most important question to ask yourself. Do you still love him? If you don’t, then there’s really no need to further this conversation ‚ just get the hell out of there. If you do still love him, then it’s time to put on your forgiveness cap, and give him another chance.

Want To Forgive Him For Cheating? Answer These 5 Questions Before You Do

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Forgiving him isn’t that easy: Are you ready to work on your relationship?

When my boyfriend told me that he cheated on me, I couldn’t believe it. Oddly enough, I knew that I still loved him and wanted to be with him, but I just didn’t know how I was going to be able to. What helped me realise that I would be able to forgive him for cheating was answering these 5 questions with full-blown honesty. First of all, I asked him if he was ready to work on our relationship, and we both came to the conclusion that we would do anything it took to make our relationship work. Also, I made it clear that it would take us a while to get back to our normal selves, and that rushing our progress wasn’t an option because I was hurt and needed time to heal.

Forgive a cheater: Can you do this without resentment?

Another question that really helped me was asking myself if I could forgive my boyfriend and date him without feeling any resentment. At first, I was a little hesitant over this matter because I resented him for his actions. But after I told him about this and we talked it through, I found out that he also resented himself for what he had done. We agreed to take things slowly and not let our resentment be the route cause of any fights or insecurities.

Cheating husband: Can you fully trust him again?

When deciding if you should get back with your cheating husband or boyfriend, it is important for you to ask yourself if you’ll ever be able to trust him again. Obviously your trust is going to falter at first, in fact, it might even disappear completely, but if you do not see yourself ever trusting your husband again because he cheated, getting back together might not be an option. Over time, if you choose to forgive him, your trust issues will melt away and you will be able to fully trust him again, but this can take months or even years to achieve.

He cheated: Does some part of you hate him for it?

Finding out that the love of your life had cheated on you can make you hate them for it, especially since if you’d made it clear to them that cheating was not on the table. If your lover made a huge mistake and wants to make it up to you, it is entirely your decision to pursue or end the relationship. To do this, you need to ask yourself if you see your partner differently now that you know what he’s done, and if you hate him for it. Since having hate for your lover is never a good thing, this should be a deal breaker.

So he was unfaithful: Do you want to get even or move on?

When I first found out that my boyfriend had cheated on me while on a business trip to Shepparton-Mooroopna, the first thing I wanted to do was get even and have a retaliation affair, but when I really thought about it I knew that I wouldn’t be able to make that thought a reality. I asked myself if I would rather get even or move on and fix our problems, and I was happy to find out that I wanted to move past this incident and not create another one.